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My purpose here is to encourage people to do one thing every day to grow their comfort zone.

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- Ed

New Month’s Resolutions for December 2009

Happy December!

I’ve never been good a new year’s resolutions. 30 days is a much more manageable time period.

Here are my new month’s resolutions for December 2009:

- I will do one thing every day to grow my comfort zone

- I will start only 1 new initiative

- I will reexamine all reoccurring expenses, and cancel any that have not been used in the past 15 days

- I will drop (or place on auto-pilot) 1 of the 3 business lines I’m currently operating

- I will check twitter, RSS, and email no more than 3 times per day

- I will check the news no more than once per day

- I will only read failblog, fml, gizmodo, and all other web flotsam and jetsam once per week

- I will try to find holiday gifts that people can actually use

The Evolution of Social Media - Part I - The Story of the Town Crier

town_cryerA number of people have asked me why there is so much “buzz” about social media.

To best understand it, and the impact it will have on our lives, we need to go back in history to where communication has changed, and understand how and why it changed.

The change in our lives to social media is only part of a trend that has happened for thousands of years.

Computer and programs like twitter and facebook are really nothing different – they are just accelerating the trend.

For part I of this series, observe the story of the Town Crier.

The Story of the Town Crier

Think back to a small town or city before the printing press was invented.

People likely got all their news from word of mouth.

The townspeople would go to the market or a local tavern and get their information that way.

Advancing armies, famine, new developments in the Senate or the King’s Court – all came from one person to another to another.

Every day, news would arrive at the tavern, and filter out to the rest of the population, as neighbors, co-workers, and other citizens went about their day.

This is the way people got their news about current events for thousands of years.

Until one day the town crier showed up

One day, a young fellow, probably far too drunk far too early in the afternoon, emerged from one of the town’s taverns and staggered through the town square.

Let’s call him Marcus.

Having just heard the news of an arriving messenger about a battle to the north and a wheat shortage to the east, Marcus ran into Bill, a friend of his.

“Hey Bill!” he screamed (as drunk people often do)

“Oh, hey Marcus” replied Bill

“You never would have guessed what happened!” screamed Marcus, even though by now he was only a few feet from Bill. “Caesar’s armies routed the Gauls! We’ve captured the Gaul capital!”

“Really? Wow, that’s good news. That will help my buddy Fred the Blacksmith with his Sword and Shield Business…”

As Marcus was yelling about the event, a few other townspeople gathered around.

“And guess what! Over in Venice they’re going through a bit of a famine! Looks like some of them won’t make it through the winter!” Marcus continued to yell

By now, there were about 20 people gathered around.

These people hadn’t been to the market or the tavern, yet were interested in learning about the day’s events.

“Tell us what happened in Gaul!” one woman asked

“Well, Caesar and his armies…” Marcus started

He probably wasn’t accurate, or right, or making any money off of it, but as he sobered up over the next hour, he recounted (in a far too loud of a voice) all the tales of both the battle and the famine that he had heard in the tavern earlier that day.

The Next Day

The next day, on his trip from the tavern through the square, the townspeople stopped Marcus again and asked him for the day’s events from the tavern.

As Marcus talked, an even larger crowd gathered.

They didn’t pay for the information, Marcus told it freely and happily.

Marcus’s friends probably thought he was an idiot, and probably advised him to go back to his job of carrying bricks.

Regardless, Marcus’s daily update of news from the taverns – with its large crowd – soon became a regular occurrence in the town square.

The Wise Tailor

Near the town square, there was a wise old tailor named Jacob.

Over a few months, Jacob noticed the crowd that Marcus was now attracting on a daily basis.

Seeing an opportunity, Jacobs offered to make Marcus a new set of clothes, at no cost, in exchange for Marcus telling the crowd where he got them.

Marcus had now found a way to visit the taverns full time.

Jacob had now found a new group of customers.

And thus the town crier was born.

Less Friction

Think about what life would be like if you were living in those times.

Your day would be very busy, and without even a horse and buggey to get around town, even walking a mile and back could be a large part of your day.

Instead of having to go to the tavern or the market, you could just go to the town square (which you probably passed through the course of the day anyways) and stop for a few minutes and listen to the town crier yelling the day’s news.

It is because it involved less friction – catching an update as you strolled through the town, instead of actively having to seek the current events – that this form of communication overtook the gossip in the markets and the taverns.

In this situation, even listening to the story told my a drunk like Marcus would mean that there was less friction involved in information flowing.

But How Did they Make Money?

Being a town crier at first probably wasn’t very profitable – I’m sure that many of the best taverns paid good money to ensure that the messengers stopped that their establishments to provide a strong center for word of mouth.

At first, these taverns were probably outraged that somebody like Marcus would go repeat the news – for free – in the town square.

They probably told people he was a liar, he wasn’t reliable, or that the news wasn’t accurate.

They probably sent people to listen to what he had to say, and point out inaccuracies.

However, it’s likely that some of them learned from Jacob the Tailor and started to pay Marcus (in beer or gold) to say a quick word about their establishments.

There was probably no financial motivation at first – but once the traffic increased around Marcus, there was reason to look at the financial potential.

The End Result

The end result of this was that communication changed from one form to another because there was less friction involved for people to have access to information.

People gravitated towards information that required less effort to get.

As the information came towards them, they paid more attention to it.

As they paid more attention to it, money started to flow towards it, and a sustainable method of communication was created.

How I Lost 20 lbs in 2 Months (and you can too!) Part II

healthy_foodsPart II

For what healthy eating has done for me in the past 2 months, please see Part I

Healthy Eating – The Story So Far

I’ve tried “health eating” many times (far too many times) before.

Before now, the concept has never worked.

Often I get too busy, too stressed, too hungry, too anything.

The plan soon cracks, and falls apart.

And I soon return to my regular “bad” eating habits.

Why I Have Failed in the Past

My healthy eating usually falls apart as soon as one of my healthy eating “rules” impede things that are important on a daily basis.

Every time I ate, I had to think through and balance about 10 different things including budget, quality, and convenience.

Often, when I didn’t have a “healthy” choice (or the time to make one), I felt guilty and skipped meals (sometimes more than twice a day).

The end result was that by having to think about food throughout the day, food was always on my mind.

By the time I was a few weeks into a healthy eating trial, I had conditioned myself to see healthy food as a negative and junk food as a reward!

My New Results

As a summary:

I’ve lost 20 lbs and I feel great

For more detail on what this change has done for me, see Part I of this post

How I Did It

I changed my thinking

Instead of setting “hard” rules, I set “soft” priorities

The result is that my system hasn’t fallen apart.

I end up eating the right foods 80% of the time for a longer period of time, instead of eating the right foods 100% of the time for a few weeks, then 20% of the time when my eating plan interrupted my lifestyle.

Here’s how it works:

I have abandoned meal scheduling, budgeting, and menu plans.

Instead of trying to decide what to eat every meal, I’ve set a list of priorities.

When I need to make a decision about food, I follow the priority list.

It goes like this:

Priority 1: Eat Something

My one rule, is that 3 times a day, every day, I have to eat something.

It doesn’t matter if all that is accessible is two cups of raw sugar, something that somehow resembles food has to go into my body.

Priority 2: Eat Something Convenient

Once Priority 1 is satisfied, and I’m committed to eating something, the next priority is convenience.

Anything that is inconvenient for that time (ie if I’m short on time, a large cooked meal) is ruled out.

Priority 3: Eat Something Healthy

Once I am set on something that is relatively convenient for that time, healthy is the next priority.

This doesn’t mean “diet” or “light” – it is healthy.

By Healthy, I mean mostly whole foods, and if processed, with ingredients you can pronounce.

Priority 4: Eat Something that Tastes Good

After all other priorities have been satisfied, the next thing I decide on is taste.

Priority 5: Eat Something Inexpensive

At the last (but not least) spot is cost.

Price still matters – but only after the other requirements are satisfied

The End Result

Ensuring that I eat something and still opt for convenience at the top of the list has been the biggest reason why this process has worked for me – if I need to eat lunch out, I go to Subway or a Pita or Juice place instead of getting a greasy hamburger.

When I’m deciding on food, I no longer go through a drawn out thinking process – I just go ahead and get something and get back to my life.

Reducing the amount of thinking I do about food has made this shift easier – I can now focus on what’s important to me.

How I Lost 20 lbs in 2 Months (and you can too!)

JumpingPart I

Somehow I’ve lost 20 pounds in 2 months.

I say “somehow” because it was completely unexpected.

It’s the result of a shift to a healthier eating routine that I’ve actually stuck to for once.

Results I’ve seen

Here’s a summary of some of the results I’ve seen from this change so far:

- Down 20lbs in about 2 months

- More energy

- Easier to walk (now run) up stairs

- Less naps in the day / evening

- Feel like my immune system is boosted

- Food bills are actually reduced (I ate out at restaurants far too often)

- Better sense of focus

- Less thinking about food

- Better time management

Changes I’ve Made

- Eating more “healthy” food

- Eating more often

- Eating less junk (candy, soda, etc.)

- Drinking more water

What This Shows

I can now say that focusing on eating better has had direct results on my weight and lifestyle.

I never had any health problems before, but I’m definitely noticing the difference in my performance.

The Most Effective Change

The most effective change I’ve made has had to do with how I manage and think about food.

I’ll talk about that in Part II of this post

A Review of the Book Publishing 2.0 Conference

I recently attended Michael Drew’s Book Publishing 2.0 conference in Calgary, AB

The 3 day course covered how to get started writing and marketing a book (the material was directly transferable to a blog)

Overall, it put me in a good direction – I got a lot out of it and some of the energy directed into this blog is a result of it.

Program Highlights

- Walk through outlining and actual design and partial writing of a book (or a blog)

- Great introduction of writing and test writing to various persona types (I personally took the most out of this section)

- Good overview of starting a blog and Search Engine Optimization (I already have some background in this and for me personally was a bit elementary, however many people who were not  technical took a lot from this session)

Speaker Experience

I was impressed at the experience of the speakers at the event – they weren’t only “author intense” resources and came from a diverse background that helped in areas that included marketing and technology.

They included:

Michael Drew – Book Promoter with a record of 59 out of 59 books on the best seller lists. Runs Promote a Book and Beneath the Cover

Dave Young – Author of Branding Blog, and Small Business Coach

Chris Maddock – Writer and Writing Coach. Can’t find his actual website, but his feedback and insight on writing were awesome.

Rich Christiansen – Serial Entrepreneur and SEO Expert. Author of Bootstrap Business

Mark Effinger – Serial Entrepreneur and Social Media Expert. Current Author of RichContent.com

Start Writing Your Book

One of the things that I thought was fantastic about this conference was that the initial construction and writing of a book or a blog takes place within the course.

This is a highly valuable experience – I found that it allows most of the learning takes place around the idea that you’re working on.

It also motivates you to move your book idea forward and put it into action.

Start Marketing Your Book

For people looking to understand the basics of pre-marketing a book (or a blog), they will see immense value in this course.

I won’t duplicate the material, but there are ways of building a base of potential readers before your book is even launched – this course will cover a good portion of the “why” and “how” questions with this topic.

Start Understanding Your Audience

Writing or marketing any material is about understanding the people you’re communicating with.

The better you understand them, the easier it will be to put together your material and communicate with them.

The better you can communicate, the better you’ll connect.

I personally took the most out this part of the course.

The “Tough” news

There’s a few things to note about this course:

- It won’t write your book or blog for you

- To get the most out of it, it involves some work in the after-hours

- You may get honest feedback about how you’re marketing your ideas (and that feedback is worth its weight in gold)

- If you’re not a “technical” person, be ready for a small learning curve on technology (although you’ll need in the near future anyways)

My Personal Advice for Those Participating

- It helps to be prepared with an overall book or blog idea – this doesn’t have to be the one idea that you follow through with and actually write a book, however it helps you progress more smoothly through the course material

- Be prepared for a bit of homework after each day – it will multiply the results you get out of the course

- Come with an open mind and be willing to pay full attention for the duration of the program

- It helps to have a very very basic level of understanding of Search Engine Optimization (SEO) and Blogs (reading through Wikipedia on these entries should be enough to get up to speed to properly understand the material)

- If you’re looking for amazing feedback on any book idea you’re working on, there is the opportunity to get great feedback from the group – completely free. If you’re willing to get up in front of people, this feedback is worth far more than any price of admission you could possibly pay at the event.

Small Bits of Feedback for the Book Publishing 2.0 People

I thought that overall the course was well run, thank you for putting it on – it was a pleasure to be there.

Some things that I think would improve your course have mostly been said in the “personal advice for those participating” area of this article.

As well, a bit of a bigger screen (some things were a little blurry from the back of the room) or smaller graphics / dual screens would have been helpful.

Action Action Action

If you’re someone who believes that your book won’t write itself, then this is a great place to start.

I personally got motivation from this event as it set me on the path of getting started, and showed me what needs to be done to get to where I want to be in the future with this blog.

This course in no way actually writes a book, blog, or any material for me, but for this project has put me on the right track by going through similar motions (when you think about it, writing a blog and writing a book are two very similar actions).

The ability to meet and connect with various people who are on the same path was invaluable as well.

What I Got Out of the Event

I personally got some great direction on how to start this blog.

While the event was called “book publishing 2.0″, everything involved in the course was directly transferable to the blogging world (valuable to me

For More Information

And the next event

Visit the Book Publishing 2.0 Site

Grow Your Comfort Zone Like Two of the Greatest Athletes of All Time

You can often find similar mentalities in great achievers.
Michael Jordan and Wayne Gretzky dominated their own sports not just in their eras, but in the history of their sports.
Here are some common mentalities between the two:
Michael Jordan and Wayne Gretzky

Michael Jordan and Wayne Gretzky

On Fear and Loss

“I never looked at the consequences of missing a big shot… when you think about the consequences you always think of a negative result.”
- Michael Jordan

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
- Wayne Gretzky

Thinking about loss will taint your ideas, your perception.

Focus on the task at hand, and execute as often as you can.

On Hard Work

“The highest compliment that you can pay me is to say that I work hard every day, that I never dog it.”
- Wayne Gretzky

“I’m not out there sweating for three hours every day just to find out what it feels like to sweat.”
- Michael Jordan

Work is its own reward.

Focus on working hard is often the only way to achieve your end goals.

Its guaranteed that there will be pain – that some things won’t go right.

Over the long run, however, many things will


On Fun

“The only way a kid is going to practice is if it’s total fun for him… and it was for me.”
- Wayne Gretzky

“Just play. Have fun. Enjoy the game.”
- Michael Jordan

Enjoy what you’re doing – and make sure you’re doing what you’re enjoying

Then if you’re focused on the end goal, you can have fun out of the tough stuff.

After all, what are you in it for?
On Talent and Failure
“I wasn’t naturally gifted in terms of size and speed; everything I did in hockey I worked for”
- Wayne Gretzky

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
- Michael Jordan

Dream big, and know what you want.

There will be many reasons why you’ll be told that you can’t do something – ignore them

And when you do fail, get back up and get going again.


On Procrastination and Roadblocks

“If you’re trying to achieve, there will be roadblocks. I’ve had them; everybody has had them. But obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.”
- Michael Jordan

“Procrastination is one of the most common and deadliest of diseases and its toll on success and happiness is heavy.”
- Wayne Gretzky

Ask yourself if you’re getting hung up on the little things or the big ones

It’s easy to get sidetracked on off on a tangent that isn’t in line with what you really want – and that’s where too many people end up.

Focus on the long term goals, and ignore the short term distractions – they usually take care of themselves

Win Like the Greatest Underdog of All Time

There has been no greater underdog in history than 1500s conquistador Hernan Cortes.

Labeled a traitor by his native Spain, he landed in present day Veracruz, Mexico with an estimated 5-600 soldiers.

Fearing mutiny, he ordered 11 of his 12 ships burned, and went on to conquer the far more powerful Aztec nation of millions.

Here’s how to learn from his story:

Fearing Mutiny, Hernan Cortes burned 11 of his 12 Ships upon reaching Mexico

Fearing Mutiny, Hernan Cortes burned 11 of his 12 Ships upon reaching Mexico

Limit the Options

The act of burning his ships left his men with few options.

Before, they easily could have mutinied, and returned to Cuba, where they would be hailed as heroes for capturing a labeled traitor.

Even if they had not mutinied at the moment, the thought and the chances to return home would have always been on their minds.

Instead, he sank his own ships and rallied his men with the words “fight or die”

Exploit Divisions in Your Opponent

While the Aztec nation at the time was huge, it was divided internally.

Montezuma had a firm grasp on most of the region, however there were portions of the country that were not happy with the Aztec ruling.

Cortes was able to help their position, and in doing so gained valuable allies.

Appear As Harmless – Yet Important – As Possible

Instead of fighting into the middle of the country, before being fully labeled a threat, Cortes and his group were invited to meet with Montezuma.

This allowed them to penetrate to the heart of the country.

Build on the mistakes of others

The arrival of Cortes resembled the fabled return of the Aztec god Quetzacoatl, which Aztec mythology preached would return at the approximate time and form that Cortes did.

This allowed the Spanish to appear bigger and stronger than they were, and strike fear in the hearts of their opponents.

Reward Good Behavior

In order to ensure loyalty among the Aztec groups he allied with, Cortes ensured that their power within and around the conquered Aztec empire increased.

This ensured loyalty and compliance, and prevented a rebellion.

5 Steps to Finding a Role Model to help Grow Your Comfort Zone

When growing your comfort zone, one way to amplify your success is to have role models to learn from

These don’t have to be people that you know personally – you can learn from the success of people from both history and the world today

Here’s how to do it:

Step 1 – Know what your trying to accomplish

Building a business?

Have a personal achievement that you’re working towards?

Knowing what you want to accomplish will help you pick the right role model

Find clarity in this area, and the rest is easy.

Step 2 – Look for others that have had success with what you want to do

Who’s conquered similar mountains to the ones you want to?

No matter what your goals in life are, chances are that somebody’s been down a similar path before.

Find them and follow them.

Step 3 – Anticipate where the speed bumps may be

Starting a business with little cash? If that’s going to be a problem, find out who’s done well with it

Not sure how to get your message out? Find someone who has found a way to project a loud voice from a normally quiet place

Fighting through a maze or a rat race? Look for people who have managed to do the same – and came out successful

Step 4 – Follow the little things

Often, it is the little things in your role model’s attitude that made them successful.

How do they project themselves?

What is their temperament?

How do they deal with the little situations?

What about the big ones?

How do they act when somebody insults them? When they hit a point of failure?

Following these little thing will give you a glimpse into their lives.

As you continue to model these individuals and take action, you’ll understand their perspectives and logic

Step 5 – Ask Yourself – What would ______ Do?

It’s good to have 2 or 3 role models in every area you’re looking to grow in

When you get to a situation, you’ll be able to ask yourself “what would _____ do?”

The more you understand the individual, and their mindset, the more that you’ll likely be able to understand and learn from their insight.

Follow Your Passion like Gandhi and Mandela

Although successful in different eras, you can see similar attitudes in two of the world’s greatest liberators.

If you’re looking for motivation and purpose through a cause greater than yourself, I’d suggest learning from the mentalities of these two.

Nelson Mandela on Robben Island and Mahatma Gandhi at a Spinning Wheel

Nelson Mandela on Robben Island and Mahatma Gandhi at a Spinning Wheel

On Finding People to Fight For
“There can be no keener revelation of a society’s soul than the way in which it treats its children.”
- Nelson Mandela

“What difference does it make to the dead, the orphans, and the homeless, whether the mad destruction is wrought under the name of totalitarianism or the holy name of liberty or democracy?”
- Mohandas Gandhi

Know the people you’re working for – is it friends and family? a cause that is important to you? a group that is voiceless?
Once you’ve found this important group that motivates you, it’s like seeing the world through a fresh filter – names and labels fade, while the important attributes shine through.

On Happiness

“Man falls from the pursuit of the ideal of plan living and high thinking the moment he wants to multiply his daily wants. Man’s happiness really lies in contentment.”
- Mohandas Gandhi

“For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.”
- Nelson Mandela

Is the happiness you’re seeking really the happiness you want?
If it is – remind yourself and use it to help find happiness in your life.
If it isn’t – find what is. Life is too short to be focusing on things you don’t enjoy.

On Finding Strength

“A good head and a good heart are always a formidable combination.”
- Nelson Mandela
“Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will.”
- Mohandas Gandhi
Neither Gandhi or Mandela were by any means overly physically strong. In their respective countries, and on the international stage, however, they were considered giants.
Often, exerting short term shows strength means that we become weaker in the long term.
By learning from Gandhi and Mandela, we can see that it through long term perseverance that we gain strength.

On Making Peace with your Enemies

“It is easy enough to be friendly to one’s friends. But to befriend the one who regards himself as your enemy is the quintessence of true religion.The other is mere business.”
- Mohandas Gandhi

“If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner.”
- Nelson Mandela

To make peace with one’s enemies, put aside politics and squabbling.

Working with others may not be easy, but it is fruitful in the long run.

Often, the people we are opposed to really have similar goals and attributes to our own.

Quick Ways to Grow Your Comfort Zone

Looking to grow your comfort zone?

Here’s how to do it

Be Aware of where your comfort zone is

Do you know where it starts and where it ends?

Where you’re completely comfortable and where you’re not?

You never really know – but you can approximate it

Come Near the Limits

Try to do activities in the day that come near the limits of growing your comfort zone

Don’t like being a “burden” on people at retail stores but don’t like the customer service you’re getting?

Ask one extra question or place on extra demand when at a store – you don’t have to go overboard

Remind yourself that the limits really aren’t that bad

Did they walk you out of the store?

Did they call the police?

It’s likely they didn’t

Maybe you got better customer service, maybe you didn’t – but at lest you now know

Grow the Limits

Sometimes you grow the limits by crossing them – and scaring yourself

Sometimes you grow them by constantly coming right to them – until they slowly enlarge so much that you’re not worried about what concerned you before

Step Over the Limits

Sometimes to grow your comfort zone you need to step outside it.

Do things that are different, daring, a little bit scary.

Don’t always go outside it – that can lead to burnout and a few other side effects

But step outside it to try something new.

You’ll find that what you were afraid of – as well as a host of other things you were concerned about – will soon be small in comparison.

Model the Best

If you have a life you’d like to lead, find the one you’d like to follow

Find heroes and role models that have accomplished the impossible

Look at their lives, their ups and downs, and model what they’ve achieved

Chances are their accomplishments didn’t happen overnight – or easily.

They had challenges as well

Look to see what they’ve been through

Build from the Best

Conquering your own fears and working towards your own goals will bring you closer to being the best

Know what you want, and know how to achieve it – you’ll find that where your comfort zone is right now is probably not where you want it to be

Find someone who’s done something that you admire – and try to mirror them.

Learn from what they’ve done and how they did it.

After all, they’re only human too, and probably went through the same thoughts, concerns, and problems that you face on a daily basis.